Go to this blog and read this post...it is exactly how I feel but could not explain it any better. Adoption is much more than doing "good", being like the stars, following a popular trend. It is a God given desire...with ALOT of prayer by the birth mom and adoptive mom God works miracles.
http://weloveourlucy.blogspot.com/2010/10/post-one-on-returning-to-ethiopia.html